Where To Live?
Long distance relationships can be tough, especially when the level of separation is unpredictable. However they are manageable if approached properly, and offer specific benefits that moving to the port area may not have.
By remaining in your hometown you are able to remain in familiar surroundings, where you already know where amenities and services are. You are also more likely to be closer to family and friends, thus having a wider network of support to assist in times of separation. Also, you are more likely to continue any existing education or employment if you remain in one place, compared to those who choose to remain mobile and move with the serving person from place to place.
These advantages do, however, come at a price. Your partner will be unlikely to return home except for weekends and leave periods, unless your home is within commuting distance. They may receive additional travel warrants to assist with returning home, but travel costs will also need to be a consideration. To balance this somewhat, the house prices in your home area may well be considerably less that in a port area, although this should not be taken for granted.
If you are married, you will be entitled to a Service Family Quarter near to where your partner is serving. This is housing, leased by Defence Estates, and rented to the serving person at a very reasonable rate. Additionally, living in a port area enables you to be close to specialist Naval support services such as Sports Facilities, Community Centres, Pre-school provision, Welfare Support and Education Facilities.
Ultimately, only you and your partner know what is best for you. The decision to remain or move is a significant one, and requires careful consideration. One approach is to draw up a pro's and con's chart, where you list all the arguments for and against each option. This will allow you to see all the things you need to consider before making a decision.
Web Site: HIVE Information Service
Web site: Naval Families Federation
Web site: Area Information Website
Defence Estates coordinates all family accommodation for Service personnel. This is in most instances located on Service Family Quarters estates, and is of good standard and value for money.
Web site: Defence Estates
JSHAO provides all Service personnel and their families with information and advice on the increasingly complex range of housing options open to them whilst they are serving and when they are about to return to civilian life. JSHAO also provides help and information to ex-Service personnel who are still in Service Families' Accommodation.
More Information: Housing
Web site: JSHAO